I’ll ignore the fact that someone is reporting information to your wife. That alone needs a separate discussion and is something you need to work out personally in your relationship.
On the technical aspect: Someone may have access to your accounts. Start by doing a factory reset and wiping your phone. Set it up fresh, and then change all your passwords, especially your google/gmail password, and enable 2 factor authentication wherever possible.
I’ll ignore the fact that someone is reporting information to your wife. That alone needs a separate discussion and is something you need to work out personally in your relationship.
On the technical aspect: Someone may have access to your accounts. Start by doing a factory reset and wiping your phone. Set it up fresh, and then change all your passwords, especially your google/gmail password, and enable 2 factor authentication wherever possible.